Not flesh of my flesh
Not bone of my bone
But still miraculous,
My own
Never forget
For a single minute
That you not being from my loins
Has made me into a different kind of man
And a changed human being
Not flesh of my flesh
Not bone of my bone
But still miraculous,
My own
Never forget
For a single minute
That you not being from my loins
Has made me into a different kind of man
And a changed human being
So, well I occasionally get to visit planet teenager. I am on planet adult or as inhabitants of planet teenager might call it planet different. It is sometimes known as planet retro for those fleeting moments that it becomes cool.
I am not cool in any way shape or form. My Dad dancing makes Ed Balls look like one of Strictly’s professionals. My taste in music does not envelope rap, and I still fondly remember the game Space Invaders which we played as a treat in the arcade and found that pretty exciting. I acknowledge that it is beyond boring when compared to some of the games played on the boy’s PS4 games console. The only similarity between those games and my schools days, is that like in the ‘A’ Team (compulsive on a Saturday evening with Mr T) no one ever dies.
When I was at school when the dinosaurs were still wandering past the cave (I think that is easier for my son to believe than a childhood with no mobile phones, no internet, queuing to use the public phone on Christmas Day, just 3 TV channels and a toilet in the porch) we could leave things by and large at school. The octopus like tentacles of social media had not yet evolved, although a number on our estate kept pigeons so messages were not altogether impossible, although slightly messier than messenger.
Yet just occasionally, slightly more frequently than a solar eclipse, our worlds do interact.
Both of us are appalled by the relentless bombing of Syria and our own abandonment of that land, with its most ancient of civilisations. Why? He asked. I did not have an answer that made sense.
And as quickly as we coalesce, we separate into our different worlds, being made slightly more whole by our coming together.
I am a parent of a teenager.
I am currently on a course for parents of teenagers. Let me be clear my teenager and I love each other in a dad/lad sort of way. You might be forgiven for thinking that this is not true, especially at the interchange that takes place virtually every school day concerning the need to get out the bed to actually get to school.
I am though clearly from a different planet to my teenager. We sometimes look at each other like Christopher Eccleston’s Doctor first looked at Rose, which a sense of humour, bemusement and then lets give it a whirl
Sometimes, I appear like I know things. I knew what it was like to split up with a girlfriend, which surprised him… and I knew what it meant to be feel the pain of a friend moving away.
But I do not know what it is like to be a teenager today. I have no idea of the pressures. I could of course attempt to get a visa and some currency to go there, but I would still be out of place.
…. and what I have learnt over the past two weeks…. is that it does not matter that I don’t get it… that I am out of place…. as long as I make time to listen. Listening on the planet teenager is not the same as listening on the planet adult.
Intentionally listening and being on the planet teenager might be my biggest bilingual challenge

I found myself having to buy tobacco recently. It was an interesting experience. I had never actually stood at a newsagents counter and asked for tobacco before. I am convinced I perspired profusely as I did so, conscious of everyone looking at the vicar buying the aforementioned substance.
Will that be for a pipe or roll ups? It was an innocent question. but at the moment I was lost in language I did not understand and having to deal with a question that I did not understand.
I am not a smoker.
It was made slightly worse by the fact that the assistant serving me was not a smoker either.
I wonder as I reflect upon my Tobacco Experience whether it would be same for those who come to Church, particularly to a traditional Church service for the first time. There is a language, culture and ritual that is assumed and is unexplained. I am hopeful I can make it more welcoming that my TE. This would not be to demystify everything completely, but to make accessible and clear.
Hey Vicar said another in the shop, don’t you realise smoking is bad for you.
I hope people who come to my churches for the first time don’t leave thinking the same thing.

Cwrs Wlpan and its follow on course are an effective way of teaching Welsh. I have just begun Cwrs Pellach.
Pob Dydd Wener, dw i’n dysgu Cymraeg y Prifysgol Bangor.
Cwrs Wlpan is built upon the same principles that ensured that Jews from very many nations could learn to speak Hebrew when the state of Israel was established. Politics aside, that was an amazing feat of education.
The Welsh for Adults course relies is designed to help people converse in Welsh. Patterns are taught using repetition, conversation in small groups, tasks, and home work. It is, I would say, fairly intense, but interspersed with laughter, encouragement and support.
I wonder whether within this there are some principles of teaching people how to follow Jesus. Whatever brand of church tradition we are, we must admit that many people have lost the art of knowing what is involved in following Jesus.
Perhaps we might try to copy Cwrs Wlpan – with a Cwrs Iesu.
What would it look like? I wonder.

I am an evangelical, I am
An evangelical is meant to be be a person of good news, who knows what it means to be embraced by God and longs to do the same to all, without hesitation.
An evangelical is someone who wrestles with the Scriptures, seeking to understand them in their own context and interpret them afresh for today. This wrestling is done with companions for others.
An evangelical is someone who looks at society and re-imagines what they might become if each person lived to their potential as someone fashioned in the image of God, who weeps when people turn their backs on God and any divine involvement in the world.
An evangelical is called to follow the pattern of Christ, the way of the Cross, and before that drape the towel around oneself and wash feet of those who might be considered unlovely, acknowledging that humanity itself becomes lovely because of Christ.
An evangelical defends the creeds not for the words themselves or for the generation that framed them, but as a reminder of the constancy of Christ throughout generations.
An evangelical is someone who listens to God, hoping to hear the divine voice afresh provoking us to follow Christ afresh in different contexts day by day.
And because I am an evangelical, I realise that I fall short of such aspirations, but God picks me up to follow afresh again.
And is also beginning to recognise that the above traits are found in other traditions, and is no longer surprised.
I mean by Church traditions what I might have meant by churchmanship many years ago.
I am extraordinarily inclusive when it comes to church traditions, except I have never been a liberal or understood liberalism. It does not seem to make sense in the way that evangelicalism ( whether open, conservative or charismatic) does or indeed Orthodoxy (as part of my ordination training, I spent 6 weeks in Greece at the Orthodox Academy in Volos. My England Cricket hat was mistaken for a mitre) or Anglo-Catholicism.
You see I grew up in St James and St Christoper, Shiregreen in Sheffield, whose theological tradition tacked according to the whim of successive incumbents. I thought it was the only expression of Christianity for a while, apart from the Elim Church, I occasionally walked to or youth groups in the same deanery, like T’others in St Peter’s, Ellesmere (another part of Sheffield). When I went to the London City Mission, which is a conservative evangelical mission (doing amazing work) I just thought that was Christian.
I did my ordination training at Queen’s in Birmingham. The Anglican cohort of 7 or 8 that I was in covered the entire spectrum of Anglicanism or so it seemed. No wonder the strapline was for a while: ‘learning at the place where traditions meet’. I wonder whether that it what Anglicanism, certainly the CofE and CiW are about at the past, places where different experiences of truth can exist and mutually flourish.
I think of Messy Church which has blossomed all over the world. It seems to have the knack of embracing differing traditions. I wonder whether they are beginning to disappear.
I may of course be very wrong, but perhaps in a nation like Wales where only 1% go to worship with the Church in Wales, theological tradition has become a bit of a luxury.
‘It is the bread and butter of evangelistic work’ was a phrase often found on the lips of a London City Missioner referring to door to door evangelism. It is the simple practice of just knocking unannounced on someone’s door seeking to talk about Jesus.
I grew to enjoy it very much, which is quite startling for an introvert. I think in retrospect some of the literature we gave out was not as ecumenically friendly as it might have been. People familiar with the chick tracts will understand what I mean. That said, we did meet people from all walks of life and different generations. There was virtually no hostility, but often hard indifference.
I think sharing my faith in this way helped hone what I believe. My missioner, Terry Bedlow, was extraordinary in keeping everything to the ‘four spiritual laws’, and could give a simple gospel message in a soundbite. I have always been more a waffler with lots of pauses for thinking time or for finding myself again within the conversation.
We met people of different faiths and none, from a number of cultures and backgrounds. Many of whom had little or scant knowledge for the Christian faith, but almost universally were always intrigued about the teachings and life of Jesus. We may have from time to time been confused for JWs or Mormons, and were at times invited in only for people then to discover who we were.
I also learnt how to drink tea or coffee as it comes which has been a huge help in preparing for pastoral ministry in the life of the Church.
Door to door is something I have continued to do in the long years that have enfolded since the Mission.
In North Kensington, the Latymer Christian Fellowship which was part of what was then called the Shaftesbury Society and became apart of the Pioneer Network of Churches developed a relationship with a particular block of flats. The residents came to expect that once a month we would call to talk about Jesus.
I will be giving it a whirl in Holyhead in the next few months: so if someone with little hair, a smile, dog collar and sometimes looks lost for words, it will be me trying to introduce you to his friend, Jesus.
TOWER HILL, October 1986. I gathered with experienced missioners and young Evangelists to take part in my first ever Open Air evangelistic event, in the surrounds of the Tower of London, the place which had seen the execution of many a heretic in the past :-).
I remember a brown chair upon which we perched, a target for the ravens and hecklers, of whom there were always around 6-8 waiting to answer the missionaries’ claims. It was not so much throwing Christians to the lions as having two rival competing groups shouting at each other and entertaining the tourists, or leaving them thoroughly bewildered.
I had a go. I stood up on the chair and said, ‘I would like to to talk about Jesus’. To which one of the hecklers replied, ‘you mean my friend from Madrid’
I had better experiences particularly with my trusty sketchboard of Open Air Campaigners fame with the ladder writing and simple gospel explanations in Tower Hill, the West End, Putney, Elephant and Castle and later Newcastle and Mexborough.
I would still do it again
It was in 1986, so forgive me if I have forgotten exactly what I said. It was in Bermondsey, in the London City Mission Hall. The missioner, Terry Bedlow, would have been there and my two evangelist colleagues, David Mouncer and Andy Chubb. There probably would have been half a dozen others, two of whom would have been there for tea and cake afterwards.
I preached on Revelation 1: 4-6
4 John to the seven churches that are in Asia:
Grace to you and peace from him who is and who was and who is to come, and from the seven spirits who are before his throne, 5 and from Jesus Christ, the faithful witness, the firstborn of the dead, and the ruler of the kings of the earth.
To him who loves us and freed[d] us from our sins by his blood, 6 and made[e] us to be a kingdom, priests serving[f] his God and Father, to him be glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen.
I remember focusing on Jesus being the ruler of the kings of the earth for about 25-30 minutes.
I did not know how to preach. I had never been on a course. I probably had not really listened to too many sermons before. I remember having just been taught that it was important to make the text come alive and to share what God had said to you during the week. That was a novel concept that God might speak to me. But I had not met many theologians who would seek to dissuade me though. That is a partial joke.
The London City Mission is a brilliant conservative evangelical organisation. I did not know that though. I just thought it was Christian, just as my parish church in Sheffield with its servers, sanctuary bell and occasional incense was Christian too.
I learnt a lot from that Bermondsey group. They allowed to blossom and to fail. They never let on how bad I was…. that came with time though.